Barleymower wrote: ↑Sat Oct 08, 2022 8:42 pmI spoke ro my wife about transitioning last week and it can't be unsaid. I've said that I'm still the same person I ever was with a few extra facets. She says she needs to get over what was said, to reset.
Well, once the words leave they cannot be called back. Sad, but true.
Do not for an instant believe the claptrap that the radical "feminists" are pushing -- it's toxic through and through. You're likely grappling with the dichotomy of what you
feel and the pop-sci notion of what constitutes what it means to be a man. Those of the species who have an X and a Y chromosome have the same emotional capacity of those who have an X and an X. Full stop. To deny that basic fact is to deny human nature -- a folly.
Men need to learn to embrace their emotions, and to learn to use them creatively. This means the entire range. We are capable of vastly more than lust and rage, and we deny the other emotions at out peril.
I agree with you Carl, we have a mix of both in our system. Maybe my issue is quite simple. At the crucial two year point in my life I did not have a male roll model and I took my roll from the people around me; women. It would explain a lot.
Note that in my life journey, I had to reject -- outright -- the Stoic constitution of two generations of men. I had to toss aside both my father's stoicism and also
his father's. It wasn't easy, but it proved to be the right path as I have written about before. I am not sorry I did, although it upset both of my main role models more than a little bit.
Humans need emotion to properly
live; this includes both boys and girls, and men and women. I want to find the idiot that penned the lyric of "big boys don't cry" and hurt her. Badly. Because it needs doing (although I suspect it's too late now). It's condemned men to a Hell that women cannot comprehend, and likely don't want to which exacerbates the problem.
One does not need to "transition" to feel compassion, joy, giddiness, true love, sadness, or melancholy. One merely needs to be
human. We as a species need to learn this.
Yes, it's a complex world. Embrace it with all you've got!