Turn up skirted for the first time

General discussion of skirt and kilt-based fashion for men, and stuff that goes with skirts and kilts.
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Re: Turn up skirted for the first time

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You raise a good question Robert. By and large the best thing to do is be as completely normal, natural and comfortable in your skirted garment as you can manage and most people will just go with your flow. This is what I do and it works incredibly well.

But we should be prepared for that rare individual who doesn't quite know what to make of your presentation and has even less idea how to broach the subject. I think your instinct to try to make the other person comfortable is spot-on. Perhaps you could say, "You look kind of uncomfortable, what's troubling you?"

The other person will probably say, "Oh ... nothing."

To which you could reply, "I'm surprised, because you certainly looked uncomfortable. I hope it's not the way, I'm dressed because (and fill in with why you love your outfit, such as: "It's new," "really comfortable," "colorful," whatever). Be prepared for, "So why do you dress that way," or a confession that "Well, yes seeing you in dress threw me off." Own that it is unconventional and quickly move along to what you're there for.

Thankfully, you'll probably find those occasions to be few and far between.
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To add my two cents worth (with inflation factored in), I guess it all depends upon the person and his/her level of understanding when it comes to fashion freestyling. In all the years I've interacted with people who work retail in stores and whatnot, I've never gotten anything in the way of puzzled/odd/confused looks, I was simply accepted for my appearance because I work hard to look nice when in public.

One case in particular, two years ago, I went to Sears for an eye exam wearing boring men's clothes, last year, I went back to the same store for an exam dressed in a low cut camisole, a mid length floral skirt and four inch heeled wedge sandals and didn't get anything in the way of a reaction from either the doctor of her staff. An inportant thing is to dress appropriately for the environment you're in and behave normally as if what you're wearing is no bid deal, because....IT ISN'T. It's just clothes, nothing more, nothing less.
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I wear skirts out quite often. A skirt on a guy is like the 800 lb gorilla in the room. I will often say something like "Man it is great skirt weather today!" or "Its so nice out I decided to rock a skirt today" A general comment seems to put the person at ease and we can get on with our conversation without focusing on the skirt. I have noticed that people like to also call everything a kilt and stay away from skirt sometimes. I am okay with that. I do wear kilts occasionally also but I don't purposely try to sugarcoat it and call a skirt a kilt. Oh and I was referring people who I see when I am wearing a skirt. Half the time if someone makes a comment about it they will say I like your kilt! Lol!
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tnwheels wrote:
Tue Aug 18, 2020 9:18 pm
A skirt on a guy is like the 800 lb gorilla in the room.
I have never thought of myself like that.
I wouldn't mind having that aura when confronted by some intractable bureaucrat.
tnwheels wrote:
Tue Aug 18, 2020 9:18 pm
Half the time if someone makes a comment about it they will say I like your kilt! Lol!
I think that is quite common and seems to be the only way some people's brain can process the visual input.
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I'm not 800lbs But no one every said anything to me,
Most time i wear long skirt but there times when i have short one on.
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Pdxfashionpioneer wrote:
Mon Aug 17, 2020 7:40 am
By and large the best thing to do is be as completely normal, natural and comfortable in your skirted garment as you can manage and most people will just go with your flow. This is what I do and it works incredibly well.
That's my approach as well, and it's only very seldom failed. Just make it look natural and correct and folks will regard things as pretty close to normal. If somebody does quiz you, just be honest about your motives.
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I guess my my reference would be you are someone that everyone is going to notice but may not engage. After I take that first step at conversation I have found that most people are very conversational and positive.
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I’d echo the advice to just treat it as a nonevent and basically be cool with it. You never know when you’re out and about who you might meet unexpectedly so just be ready to style it out. You be you.
I wore a just over the knee black linen skirt to an appointment for an ultrasound exam of my kidneys and surrounds and the operator referred to my shorts, which I didn’t correct but he can’t have not noticed, I figured it was just how he decided to deal with it.
Having resolved not to wear trousers to work again this year (not that I’ll be in the office that often) there are a couple of people I’m slightly nervous about meeting not because I think they’ll react negatively but it’ll still be a big thing for me. But I’m going to do it anyway because having decided to be more my authentic self at work, it wouldn’t be right not to.
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tnwheels wrote:
Fri Aug 21, 2020 11:21 pm
I guess my my reference would be you are someone that everyone is going to notice but may not engage. After I take that first step at conversation I have found that most people are very conversational and positive.
Not sure where I got it from, somewhere in Reddit I think:

Most people won't notice
Most people who notice won't care.
Most people who care won't say anything

The number of people who will actually say anything is vanishingly small in my experience.
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