It took a bit of effort to get out of the car, but I ended up walking around several blocks, including by a large road, for 30 minutes. It was dark, and I was stressed out of my mind for the first 5 minutes or so. Then I started relaxing and enjoying it. It was an amazing experience... During the walk, I was very conscious of the cars passing by. I did notice one car coming from behind, and kinda slowing down as it was approaching me. They didn't stop, but when they got close, they sped up and went on their way.
I might be misinterpreting the timing, but my guess is they saw me from behind, and thought I was a woman, but when they saw me from the side, with the stubble on my face, and obvious non-female look, they went on their way.
While I found the situation quite entertaining afterwards, and a bit of a confidence-booster, I can also imagine a situation where this could have led to some danger...?
Anyone have any similar experiences?
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It's dark. CHECK
You're in stilettos. CHECK
And a trashy (by its own admission) miniskirt. CHECK
And you're sauntering aimlessly round the streets. CHECK
The danger: getting arrested for soliciting! Or getting beaten up by a man who was hoping to be your customer?
Has anyone ever had any reactions that were more violent than just a rude comment?
But I have never had any violet reactions - and I go anywhere/everywhere in skirts/dresses etc...
I do not try to impersonate a woman but I do wear more feminine styles, I have breasts which make many clothing choices easier and others harder, I do groom myself and wear high heels all the time.
I can imagine your situation well - I have been in that boat many times. I must say though nighttime is harder than daytime I found - even nowadays, years of wearing later I am still more confident in the daytime than at night. I think folk can get the wrong idea at nigth but during the day and early evening its fine.
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One of them even asked if I wanted him to come to my place to detail my car (It was a bright red, late-model sports car.). It took multiple 'No's!' to convince him I REALLY wasn't interested. Finally, they took off.
For me, the scariest part was I couldn't imagine what they wanted and had no idea on how to end it. I ignored them the whole time and it just kept up. In addition, there was 4 of them and one of me. And I was in heels. Worse yet, I hadn't seen Charlise Theron in Atomic Blond, so I didn't know how deadly a weapon a pair of spike heels can be.
It wouldn't have mattered, there were 4 of them and I only had 2 shoes.
All of that said, nationwide, an inordinate number of black, trans women are getting murdered. Why is unclear, but that statistic certainly suggests you want to exercise your street smarts when trotting around in a mini and heels.
Social norms aren't changed by Congress or Parliament; they're changed by a sufficient number of people ignoring the existing ones and publicly practicing new ones.
I think cultural expectations makes it even tougher for a man of colour to make such a change, people rant about emasulation of black men, and these murders may be part of some (wrongly) trying to stop this.
But going out at night does add an element of danger to things as apart from weirdos or people out to cause trouble, the likelihood of cops having a word increases, especially in the age of Corona Lockdowns. Daytime is better or driving to an area where no one knows you