Coder wrote: ↑
Fri Jan 31, 2020 10:58 pm
I think it’s a simple question. I have a bit of envy towards women - that is their ability to wear what they want (from my perspective, I can never fully understand their situation). So in the realm of fashion - specifically skirts - did you initially envy, and later did that envy go away as you realized you were free to wear what you want?
Envy does fit the condition. Jealousy also kind of fits. That being said, the expanded options that they enjoy and take for granted were only hard won a few short decades ago.
The good news is that have noticed that envy dissipated once I got the pieces that I was envious about for myself and plucked up the courage to wear them like I owned them. I was envious of all the options they had and the looks they put together. I also sensed a lustful rise out of the looks they put together. Adopting their fashions took away the foundation for that envy and internalized that lust.
I've been questioned why I wear skirts, thigh high boots with leggings, dresses, (etc) and I've generally gotten a appreciative response from my reply.
My reply is this first: I find that I really like the look(s). I put it on and rock it with the hope that it inspires them to copy it, like they've done with men's shirts, blue jeans, (etc). Or, at the very least, that it causes them to have a similar rise to the ones I get seeing them rocking it. (Mama always told me "Turn about is fair play!" I do have other reasons, like the fact that I do feel a sense of inner peace when I put it on. I find it liberating. And besides, eliminating the foundations for a couple deadly sins can't be all bad.
One time at a party I put first reply to this guy who asked why I was in high heeled thigh boots and leggings. That answer not only got me a high-five out of one of the ladies who heard the whole thing, but the guy identified with it. He had a thing for tall boots too. He even whipped out his phone and showed me his tall-boots pintrest feed.
To address the biblical prohibitions, I will point out that they are based on either someone trying to sneak into ladies only spaces to have their way or emulate/worship a goddess from another religion. I make no attempt to emulate the ladies, nor any Egyptian, Greek, Norse, or pagan goddess/priestess, etc.
I wear it like I've always had the right to do so, head held high. Intentionally standing out from the rest of the crowd displays a sense of courage that many find attractive. It also provides a common ground, providing far better subject material for that all important ice breaking small talk. You're suddenly a guy who fully appreciates the effort and technical pitfalls of putting together a look that isn't one of the half dozen standard guy styles.