How many is enough to normalise us?

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Re: How many is enough to normalise us?

Postby JennC03 » Tue Mar 12, 2019 8:41 pm

TheSkirtedMan wrote:
JennC03 wrote:What you have money can’t buy. It’s Priceless and that’s an accepting wife. Maybe some people should actually learn something from me in how to live in this world and not worry over a piece of clothing.


Well said. My wifes sentiment as well.

For me, I am retired, did so when my wife did, but I ran a garden maintenance and design business and lost not one of my regular clients when I decided to go public and had no problem with ongoing new clients. Still maintain 1 day a week, summer months only for maintenance only for a few clients. Friends maintained, new ones acquired. One or two distant family members raised points when they finally heard but they only come into our life at christenings, weddings, and funerals and quite often not even then and certainly had no social interaction. Have had no issues within voluntary roles at two different historic houses interacting with paying visitors. Perhaps I am lucky, perhaps societies direct involvement with my wife and I have open minded people in our lives.

As Moonshadow has stated he had problems and quite a few on this forum hint of such with partners so I can see why some men do hide behind doors. Especially if within professional occupations with strict obsession to society expectations and labels that are relaxed with females with regards dress codes and appearance but still held in high regard towards males. Quite often it is the fear of the unknown and it is these who could potentially increase the number of men in skirts in public. This forum, others and the many positive comments on the internet about men in skirts may hopefully encourage them to take that first step. Sadly negative comments abound as well which can negate any positive thoughts.

Society, certainly in the western cultures, it is masculinity that is seen as being normal and all most aspire and adhere to it to be accepted by the larger society "clan" membership. I am an individual, true to myself and develop a personal life around that. All else, I just ignore. Or use!



I’m Moonshadows wife. I fully support him no matter what he wears. He’d like for his mother to be okay with it but I always ask. Why do you need her approval?
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Re: How many is enough to normalise us?

Postby weeladdie18 » Tue Mar 12, 2019 8:53 pm

Well said again Jenn .....Perhaps the Males are getting upset because the Lassies are more interested in eyeing up a Man in a Skirt.....
than eyeing up a butch male with a funny haircut and lots of weird tattoos ................................L.O.L.
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Re: How many is enough to normalise us?

Postby JennC03 » Tue Mar 12, 2019 8:54 pm

weeladdie18 wrote:Well said again Jenn .....Perhaps the Males are getting upset because the Lassies are more interested in eyeing up a Man in a Skirt.....
than eyeing up a butch male with a funny haircut and lots of weird tattoos ................................L.O.L.



Thank you =-)
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Re: How many is enough to normalise us?

Postby weeladdie18 » Tue Mar 12, 2019 10:33 pm

Thank you Jenn...It is interesting to note that my mother did not wish me to go out of her front door whilst wearing a skirt....
because of what her neighbours might think......It was unfortunate that she did not consider what I thought of her neighbours......L.O.L.

There again the cultural acceptance of the local community has changed since I was born,.. and lived in Sea Ports for many years.....weeladdie
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Re: How many is enough to normalise us?

Postby JennC03 » Tue Mar 12, 2019 10:40 pm

weeladdie18 wrote:Thank you Jenn...It is interesting to note that my mother did not wish me to go out of her front door whilst wearing a skirt....
because of what her neighbours might think......It was unfortunate that she did not consider what I thought of her neighbours......L.O.L.

There again the cultural acceptance of the local community has changed since I was born,.. and lived in Sea Ports for many years.....weeladdie



You’re welcome. I’m not sure why your mom worried so much. Maybe you could’ve flashed them the Moon then they’d have something to chatter about LOL
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Re: How many is enough to normalise us?

Postby weeladdie18 » Wed Mar 13, 2019 8:52 am

Jenn..It is unfortunate to say that my Mother passed away at home when she was nearly ninety years old......
If she had chatted to Moon's Mom , they would probably have agreed that theirs sons should not wear skirts....
However I am quite sure that they would have continued to chatter until they found a subject for mutual disagreement.........
........L.O.L................weeladdie
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Re: How many is enough to normalise us?

Postby Uncle Al » Wed Mar 13, 2019 7:53 pm

Jenn,

I don't think he understood the phrase "flashed them the Moon" ;)
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Re: How many is enough to normalise us?

Postby JennC03 » Wed Mar 13, 2019 8:02 pm

Uncle Al wrote:Jenn,

I don't think he understood the phrase "flashed them the Moon" ;)
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Re: How many is enough to normalise us?

Postby JennC03 » Wed Mar 13, 2019 8:04 pm

weeladdie18 wrote:Jenn..It is unfortunate to say that my Mother passed away at home when she was nearly ninety years old......
If she had chatted to Moon's Mom , they would probably have agreed that theirs sons should not wear skirts....
However I am quite sure that they would have continued to chatter until they found a subject for mutual disagreement.........
........L.O.L................weeladdie



Weeladdie I meant you flash your neighbors your butt LOL!

Sorry to hear about your mom.
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Re: How many is enough to normalise us?

Postby TheSkirtedMan » Wed Mar 13, 2019 9:37 pm

JennC03 wrote:... but I always ask. Why do you need her approval?


Exactly. Why does anyone need anothers approval for anything in life so long as no physical harm to others is being done. If that person is happy and content with themselves, let them be. For some, family connection is important and that can add personal pressure on themselves.

I have been far more settled as an individual since I started being far more open with my preferred clothing choice and ignoring society clothing labels and expectations. Should I have been stronger with myself earlier in life, perhaps but society then was even more indocterinated and professional even non professional careers would have been more awkward, even impossible for the likes of me and other diverse individuals to be themselves. I do not dwell on it but make the most of now and try to encourage others in all aspects of life to be themselves so long as no law broken, no physical harm to others. Forget the society gender and other labels and expectations, be yourself, be an individual. I can only stress once again, to those men hiding in private, taking the first step is hard but it gets very much easier. Be confident, not too extreme and interact just as a woman who has assimilated the male wardrobe does in day to day life. Do they think of labels, expectations or even seek approval of others? No, they complain and join forces with others in the sisterhood if any question about their individuality and rights are raised. Forget the labels and expectations, just be you. Partner/wife objection is a different subject and best dealt in house.

The world is full of interferring do gooders who always fail to see their own idiosyncrasies. No one is perfect in the eyes of another.
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