I have only been a member of this forum since April.....If you trawl back that far you will find
Plenty of thoughts and experiences from all of us.....
Christmas Parties and New Years Eve are the times to look your best.....
There is plenty of information on Men in Skirts on the internet.
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This will be followed by a procession the following weekend
to celebrate the arrival of Father Christmas.
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Great to hear your story of making that first public outing and now you will be inspiring others to do the same.SEPADave wrote:Since joining this site, reading all of your updates daily and reviewing your positive words of encouragement and your own personal success stories, I finally mustered the courage and went out into public last night in a skirt.
I am interested in what style, length and colour you chose to wear for first time out.
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Great going! If lonely situations at night are all you can do for now, do keep doing that.Keystone wrote:I am very much a skirt newbie and would like to thank everyone in SkirtCafe for their encouraging posts. Posts such as SEPADave's give a tremendous amount of encouragement for people like me who still falter on being open and public about their skirt-wearing. I've been limiting myself to wearing my skirts in public only at night on my walks back to my car from working and evening job. Such posts are very energizing and really help to build confidence. Thanks to all!
But meanwhile, keep thinking about what a first daytime outing might be. Buying gas or buying something from a convenience store some distance from home might be possibilities. Both are short, anonymous, and provide a quick getaway.
Or find an event that's counter-cultural anyway. For me, it was a tattoo convention but it could also be a craft show, an art district, a comicon, or a rock concert. Whatever works.
The important part is to present a friendly and confident attitude, even if you have to fake it. If you act like a creep, they'll think you're a creep. If you act like a nice guy, they'll think you're a nice guy, even if your clothes are a bit unconventional. All kinds of people wear all kinds of unconventional clothes every day. So what?
Just keep at it until you're ready.
Caultron, Thanks for all the great suggestions. I do feel my confidence slowly building. I like the suggestions about attending counter-cultural events. I've attended an sculpture fair in Loveland, CO and that would have been the perfect moment. I noticed that Scottsdale, AZ has a fairly large art community and that probably would have worked as well. I used to have friends that live in Troon North, Scottsdale but that moved back to Germany. I think rural PA missed out on the counter-culture movement. The only thing we have here is out-of-work steel workers and old miners suffering from black lung. We have some nice hiking trails nearby and I think that will daytime skirt opener.Caultron wrote: But meanwhile, keep thinking about what a first daytime outing might be. Buying gas or buying something from a convenience store some distance from home might be possibilities. Both are short, anonymous, and provide a quick getaway.
Or find an event that's counter-cultural anyway....
The important part is to present a friendly and confident attitude, even if you have to fake it....
Just keep at it until you're ready.
Shockingly, about two years ago I saw a man in the supermarket wearing a pleated skirt with his girl friend. He looked pretty rough (like 20 miles of bad road) but he was out there sporting his skirt to which I give him credit. I ran into another guy at the local brew pub wearing a kilt and we struck up a pleasent conversation. I then ran into him at the supermarket a month later. Three local sightings is very encouraging but judging by other people's SkirtCafe posts, these are very rare. I accept the notion that if I want to wear a skirt in rural PA that I'm going to be on my own. For the initial first year and a half, I've hidden my skirt wearing interest from my wife but now I'm gradually exposing her to it. I took a pair of cheap boxer shorts and cut out the crotch and turned it into a skirt. It took her a month to notice. When she asked why, I told her that it's much more comfortable for grading papers and long-term sitting. She seemed to accept that. With the ice broken, I wear the boxer skirt whenever I can to make its presence mundane. She loves it when I wear leggings because it make my a$$ look good. I'm hoping to catch a lucky break with skirts as well. Next, I'll buy sweat skirt and continue to take it slow and build from there. Thanks for your encouragement and for leading by example.
If it would help, the next time you're in Scottssale, Phoenix, or nearby, let me know and we can meet skirted for a beer or whatever. Safety in numbers and all that.Keystone wrote:...I noticed that Scottsdale, AZ has a fairly large art community and that probably would have worked as well. I used to have friends that live in Troon North, Scottsdale but that moved back to Germany...
We can talk about specifics when the time comes. Lunch at a craft brewery, hiking, a hockey game, an art or craft show, a stroll around downtown Scottsdale, Cave Creek, or Carefree...Keystone wrote:Hey thanks for the invite! Next time I'm out, I'll take you up on that. I'm not exactly sure what that would be but that would certainly add to the visit. Best regards!
I suppose the objective would be to make it easier for you to wear a skirt publicly by not being the only one.
I have yet to have anyone take more than a passing glance until last Saturday when a guy approached me, shook my hand and said i had more guts than he did wearing what I was wearing.
I'm no longer worried about it, would happily wear one regularly with spousal approval. I am tall, slimish, and carry myself well. I have always overflowed with self confidence, so own the skirt when wearing it.
I don't think the general community really cares, it's our own insecurity about possible adverse reactions.
The more those of us who venture outdoors in skirts and share our thoughts and successes, the more courage others will have to step out of their home in a skirt.