Unfortunately many have found that a large part of that minority to be the few people about whom we care the most, immediate family.STEVIE wrote:What we have to deal with is a minority and, more importantly ourselves.
For me the point is that I am comfortable and relaxed. If others like it that is a bonus, but it is not my primary concern. (Does that selfishness make me a bad person? I like to think not, but others may choose to differ.)Skip, wear a skirt, go unnoticed, what's the point?
Right with you on that. I get a buzz out of spreading a little confusionI have now got to the point of taking a certain pleasure in seeing someone doing a "second take".
The imaginary demons are often the most frightening; our minds deliberately make them that way.For "ourselves" I was more afraid of "others'" reactions than anything to do with the actual skirt wearing.
I'd re-phrase that as "Wear a skirt, push your "boundaries", as you feel comfortable and simply be yourself. If you enjoy the attention as it arises that is a bonus."Wear a skirt, push the "boundaries", as you feel comfortable, enjoy the attention as it arises and simply be yourself.
I likewise still find it a surprise to go into a new place full of imaginary demons only to discover that they are not there. It may be a new physical location or a different style of skirt or perhaps just with a different group of people, but each time the lack of reaction is a surprise. It seems to me that people are generally too wrapped up in the trials and tribulations of their own life to pay much attention to what others wear. Even when we are noticed it is a few seconds of curiosity and then forgotten as life intrudes on our observers again.You may well be amazed, I know, I was and still am.
Ultimately it is all summed up in the single sentence that someone once posted here (I'm afraid I don't recall who originated it):
People worry far less about what others think of them once they realise how little others think of them.
I read that the first time, thought about it and realised it to be true of how I react to others around me as well as how others appeared to respond to my skirted presence. With that realisation I dumped about 80% of my fears on the spot; it was like an instant injection of confidence.
You want to wear a skirt? OK, do it with confidence. Take your advice from Val Doonican* "Walk tall, walk proud and look the world right in the eye". (Sorry if you now have that tune stuck in your heads ).
Have fun,
Ian.
* More accurately from Don Wayne who wrote the song.