Dress wearing for a tomboy!

[skirtingtoday]

Perhaps not the usual post but interesting nonetheless:-

It shows the inner feelings and outer reactions on being a girl and dressing as a girl and/or as a boy. Even to the extent of being fearful of wearing a dress and walking out the front door, expecting immediate ridicule and looking like a man in drag!

http://www.quailpipe.co.uk/articles/dre ... ns-learnt/

[partlyscot]

Yes, very interesting. It's the opposite view form the other side of the fence.

[Grok]

Interesting comment about androgyny feeling safe. Perhaps this is part of the reason women like to borrow from our side of the aisle?

[Sinned]

It's also interesting that she went through ( and is still possibly going through ) the same feelings and emotions that we go through. The dress being left on the back of the door for a week. It was ages after I started wearing a skirt around the house that I went outside in one. The uncertainty of the reactions and the sweaty nervous palms. Even now, when I feel more comfortable and really ENJOY wearing a skirt it is still a minor effort not to be nervous. So to read something like that from a woman is revealing. It is sad though that she felt that she had to dress as she had done for so long!

[crfriend]

Interesting comment about androgyny feeling safe. Perhaps this is part of the reason women like to borrow from our side of the aisle?

I think that some of this is a result of the misogynistic thinking that's been prevalent for so many decades. It's pushed the gals to dress (and act) more and more like guys, and that, in turn, has pushed the guys to try to hyper-masculinse with all the attendant problems that causes. Until the notion that women are inferior to men goes extinct -- and has been for a while -- the problem will remain.

It is sad though that she felt that she had to dress as she had done for so long!

She probably dresses so more often than not now, and likely the dress only very rarely sees the light of day. It's just simpler that way; putting together a good look takes a certain amount of work, and altogether too frequently it's just plain easier to chuck on the "same-old same-old" and shuffle out the door -- just like I'm going to do this morning. Save that I'll be dressed like a pillow because it's so blasted cold -- and showing precisely no signs of easing.

[skirtingtoday]

I can certainly equate with a number of her observations and comments.

Initially getting a skirt was a challenge and then keeping it out of sight for a time wondering if you would ever have the courage to wear it outside.
Then the observation when she did venture outside, that nobody bothered and the responses from the world were mostly non-existent. So her fears and trepidation were mostly in her head.
Then noticing that people smiled a bit more and seemed more inclined to talk to you

I have observed all of these things when wearing a skirt and empathise with her.

As Sinned says, it is revealing (and indeed refreshing) to hear that she has the same angst we all go through even though we would normally expect that a woman wouldn't have such emotions and stress about clothing especially nowadays.

[Grok]

I took a look at the link for "Whatever Suits You." This woman seems not to be a Skirtonian. This is something that society has traditionally not honored-choice regarding one pipe or two. Myself, I have always despised the monkey suits that is designated as male formal wear.

[Hemitom]

So my question is...eitherside of the fence are people more happier when wearing a dress than wearing jeans???

[Caultron]

So my question is...eitherside of the fence are people more happier when wearing a dress than wearing jeans???

I suspect it depends on the person, the setting, the local culture and a thousand other factors..

[crfriend]

I suspect it depends on the person, the setting, the local culture and a thousand other factors..

Indeed, and by the tone of the author's commentary she had already long given up on anything much other than fully androgynous garb (like jeans and t-shirts). So, she was as far off her "comfort base" as we guys are when looking at a skirted option for the first time and trying to screw up the nerve to wear it out.

[Caultron]

I suspect it depends on the person, the setting, the local culture and a thousand other factors..

Indeed, and by the tone of the author's commentary she had already long given up on anything much other than fully androgynous garb (like jeans and t-shirts). So, she was as far off her "comfort base" as we guys are when looking at a skirted option for the first time and trying to screw up the nerve to wear it out.

Spot on.

[Nolyn]

"I think that some of this is a result of the misogynistic thinking that's been prevalent for so many decades. It's pushed the gals to dress (and act) more and more like guys, and that, in turn, has pushed the guys to try to hyper-masculinse with all the attendant problems that causes. Until the notion that women are inferior to men goes extinct -- and has been for a while -- the problem will remain."

Well said. And I believe us men wearing mugs goes a long way toward breaking down the "women are inferior" myth.

[JohnH]

About three years ago I was out and about wearing a denim skirt. I walked up to a young lady who was also wearing a skirt and said to her, "I see that you are also wearing a skirt."

She was embarrassed that someone noticed she was wearing a skirt.

John

[Hemitom]

About three years ago I was out and about wearing a denim skirt. I walked up to a young lady who was also wearing a skirt and said to her, "I see that you are also wearing a skirt."

She was embarrassed that someone noticed she was wearing a skirt.

John

I think i missed something, why would she be embarrassed??

[JohnH]

Because three years ago almost no one wore a skirt in the Dallas, Texas area!

John