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Hello everyone.

I am a very unconvincing cross-dresser but I think that I may actually just want to wear the skirts and dresses rather than be in the whole transgender thing. I have very long, girly hair which I often plait or put girly slides or clips into (I like the look and feel of it) but also have had a long beard for thirty years! I love to wear skirts with otherwise ordinary ‘Male’ clothes as the getting fully cross-dressed can just be too much effort for no real return. It may be that I just need to not feel the constriction of trousers.

I tend to wear below the knee length as, although I have good legs (especially in heels) I feel more comfortable with my legs covered somewhat. I have never liked wearing shorts. I tend to go for the skirt equivalent of trousers eg ‘combat’ skirts with lots of pockets to put all my bits and pieces in, even when fully cross-dressed I never really went for a handbag (US = purse?).

I use a ‘Femme’ name on-line as I am not sure yet where I am on the whole M-F, trans-spectrum thing. Sorry if this upsets anyone, I don’t mean to offend but I would prefer to be able to take part in the discussions as I am rather than have to create a new on-line identity. Is it any worse than using a non-human name?

E-J.

Hi, E-J, and welcome to SkirtCafe. While it's possible that some members might point out that this isn't a CD site, you've clearly already grasped that adequately.

What's in a name, anyway?

Personally, I don't feel the need to pin myself (or anyone else for that matter) in any particular location on the CD/TG spectrum, or any other spectrum. Humans like to compartmentalise each other, but I was forced to give that up myself a few years ago, and have discovered that it's much easier to get along with myself if I don't try to stick myself somewhere (as I keep moving), and it's easier to get along with others if I don't try to pin them down either.

What I think I'm failing to say is "welcome" and don't worry too much. You are you, and we will (should) take you as you are.


Paul.

E-J

Hi &

Hi E-J
It took me an awful long time to realise there was an alternative when wearing a skirt to full on cross dressing. I too have a beard and am now on a whole new journey of skirting.
Welcome to the cafe, it has been a huge help to me and I'm sure you'll find the same.
Steve.

I don't have a long beard, it's actually rather neatly clipped most of the time, but I too have had it for a long time - coming up now on forty years. That would just make the whole crossdressing thing just too difficult. Kilts and skirts are a different thing, though. I feel that I can express my individuality without going to extremes.

Welcome from another newbie.

Hi E-J, and welcome to SkirtCafe.

Nice to see somebody else from the Leicester area!

I read your comments with interest as much of what you say strikes a chord with my own personal experiences.

I tend to wear below the knee length as, although I have good legs (especially in heels) I feel more comfortable with my legs covered somewhat. I have never liked wearing shorts...

I too share your preference for the longer skirts as I do not like to show too much flesh. However I fully appreciate that is my opinion and some here in the forum prefer to wear shorter skirts and bare their legs.

...I am not sure yet where I am on the whole M-F, trans-spectrum thing...

I am evaluating where I am on this scale - initially I started out as a 'man wearing a skirt' but how now moved onto a only slightly more 'femme' look by delving into androgeny. I'm not sure if I will continue into a full trans state, but have just started taking some professional 'advice' to help me see where I am going with this.

Reading this forum has been a great help to me here, and I hope you find the discussions useful too.

SkirtedMouse