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JohnH wrote:I have been ma'amed occasionally. That does not bother me but I do prefer to be "sir'ed". I am not worried at all if someone mistakes me for a woman - you don't see women worrying about being mistaken as men. However, I make absolutely no effort to "pass" as a woman.

Yes. I've really only been ma'amed from behind, a full beard tends to de-"feminize" anything.

I have however, also been asked which I preferred! My response? "I'm a guy..."

But getting ma'amed doesn't bother me. *shrug*

Zorba wrote:[... G]etting ma'amed doesn't bother me. *shrug*

Actually, the only people that it would bother are those who are already insecure about it. Although it is sometimes funny to see the reactions on folks' faces when I turn around and almost always have to look down to see the querier.

crfriend wrote:

Zorba wrote:[... G]etting ma'amed doesn't bother me. *shrug*

Actually, the only people that it would bother are those who are already insecure about it. Although it is sometimes funny to see the reactions on folks' faces when I turn around and almost always have to look down to see the querier.

Ah, yes. I get ma'amed and then I respond with my basso voice. (S)he says, "Oh, sorry Sir!"

JohnH wrote:. . . . the only standard color for a suit is black or dark navy, and ties have only a solid color. John

I'm truly sorry for you it this is true in your part of the world. I wear a suit and tie four days a week and have since 1974. I have never owned a black suit. My current wardrobe includes suits in navy, medium and light grey and brown. It's been so long since I've owned a solid color tie I can't remember what color it was. My favorite ties now are a line from Vineyard Vines that have fun neat prints (leaping sharks, beach chairs and so on).

skirted_in_SF wrote:

JohnH wrote:. . . . the only standard color for a suit is black or dark navy, and ties have only a solid color. John

I'm truly sorry for you it this is true in your part of the world. I wear a suit and tie four days a week and have since 1974. I have never owned a black suit. My current wardrobe includes suits in navy, medium and light grey and brown. It's been so long since I've owned a solid color tie I can't remember what color it was. My favorite ties now are a line from Vineyard Vines that have fun neat prints (leaping sharks, beach chairs and so on).

That's why in the Dallas, TX area there aren't very many men that wear suits!

skirted_in_SF wrote: ... suits in navy, medium and light grey and brown...

Gosh, all the colours of the rainbow! We men are such peacocks!

skirtyscot wrote:Gosh, all the colours of the rainbow! We men are such peacocks!

Yeah, whatever happened to, "the male's emergence, from his drab camouflage, into the gaudy plumage, which is the birth right of his sex?"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kwW4kXfsh1Q

Somewhere we lost our way. It used to be that the gaudiest people were those at the top of the ladder. Now it's almost the reverse.

skirtyscot wrote:

skirted_in_SF wrote: ... suits in navy, medium and light grey and brown...

Gosh, all the colours of the rainbow! We men are such peacocks!

Yes, and such variety in men's formal wear - as long as there are pants, coat, and tie. Kind of reminds me of the choice people had for the color of Model T Fords - any color as long as it's black!

John

skirtyscot wrote:

skirted_in_SF wrote: ... suits in navy, medium and light grey and brown...

Gosh, all the colours of the rainbow! We men are such peacocks!

Funny thing is, there are fabrics I won't buy a suit in. Specifically, chalk stripes - too movie gangsterish for my taste. I let my inner peacock out with my ties and my recent garnet overcoat. Oh, and the scarves I've just started buying to go with my overcoats.

JohnH wrote: the color of Model T Fords - any color as long as it's black!

John

That's the myth, however the truth was any very dark colour, as they were the quickest drying of those early enamels, therefore minimising dust nibs on drying paints.

skirted_in_SF wrote: Oh, and the scarves I've just started buying to go with my overcoats.

Here is something I have recently resorted to for "peacock" best! I have looked in the racks of the charity shops and found some really good, sometimes silk-sometimes acetate square scarves, most often in paisley patterns that don't look too bad on a bloke.

I'm 32 years old and grew up in the goth/ punk scene I've been painting all 20 nails black since 1990 or so.

I've been painting my toenails for 4 or 5 years now, I use all kinds of colors, reds, pinks, blue, green, whatever. Last summer I had an emergency room visit followed by 2 days in the hospital and had my toes painted a bright hot pink, I didn't get any negative reactions at all, actually got a few compliments from the nurses. I was nervous about it but it was a huge non-incident.

Sorry, I've never owned a suit in my life. But I abolished bosses early on, but even then, they were intelligent enough to realize performance mattered much more than attire.

Painting my nails? Well, ever heard of "Gilding the lily"?

scooterskirt wrote:I've been painting my toenails for 4 or 5 years now, I use all kinds of colors, reds, pinks, blue, green, whatever. Last summer I had an emergency room visit followed by 2 days in the hospital and had my toes painted a bright hot pink, I didn't get any negative reactions at all, actually got a few compliments from the nurses. I was nervous about it but it was a huge non-incident.

I hope it turned out all right!

Jack Williams wrote:Painting my nails? Well, ever heard of "Gilding the lily"?

I've heard of it, and it's an appropriate comment, even though Shakespeare actually wrote about painting the lily and gilding refined gold!