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mishawakaskirt wrote:Every case is unique. I can speak from my life.
When I was 6 or 7 I wanted a tutu in the worst way.
Eventually I got up enough nerve to ask my mom. And was shot down.
I never did get that tutu, but when I did get old enough to drive. I did go skirt shopping.
I often wonder how my life might have been if my mom had said " ok what color?"
The most flustrating part out of all this is having to hide a part of my personality from first my mom, and now my wife. Why can't we be comfortable with The people we are closest too?
Mishawakakilt
It sounds as a complex situation that you hide a part of your personality. Yes it's problem that have a lot of us. You won't lost your relationship. And you want to be who you are.
As I speak to myself. I can walk everywhere in my favorite clothes, the skirt. And I don't really care what people think or what they say to me. If they laugh, they laugh. If there is no reaction, then there is no reaction. It is as it is. And I feel comfortable and I am happy. But at home my wife makes a lot times problems of my clothes. And when she doesn't make troubles, then I feel my not always comfortable to her too. Only close people who knows my preference I can be who I am. And that feels okay. But I don't have a secret to here. And that feels that I can hope of maybe she will accept it once. But it is a small hope.
But not telling feels not as uncomfortable as well very unsafe. And there's no hope. And that is what I do not want.
WesleyN wrote:[...But at home my wife makes a lot times problems of my clothes. And when she doesn't make troubles, then I feel my not always comfortable to her too...But not telling feels not as uncomfortable as well very unsafe. And there's no hope. And that is what I do not want.
So, does your wife even know you like to wear skirts?
Like, when she complains about your clothes, is she complaining about the skirts or something else?
Courage, conviction, nerve, verve, dash, panache, guts, nuts, balls, gall, élan, stones, whatever. Get some and get skirted.
My skirts and my womankind being. But the only reason why I do like wearing it's because I think skirts are beautiful and it feels fine wearing skirts or dresses. Clothes has to looks nice. Not because I have to dress. That's a reason too. But not important in my mind. The clothes I wear have to make me happy. And that are because it is beautiful and you feel you good in your own clothes. No more reasons than that. Is that strange?
And why she says I'm womankind I don't mind. People says that Always because of my way of dressing and probably also that I pay a lot of attention to my personal care. And I'm also a caring person and I have a lot feelings. That are not bad properties, I think.