Disaffected.citizen wrote:Mostly, this is correct; however, there's always the possibility (no matter how unlikely) that you are the unfortunate victim of the "random nutcase" who doesn't consider the effect of their action.
True, but statistically, you have a greater chance of being killed in a traffic accident than you do of being killed simply for wearing a skirt, and that's coming from a man who drives a thousand miles per week.
Disaffected.citizen wrote:Although this is mostly true, do not be too cavalier about it. There are risks. The worst most are likely to encounter are heckles from afar, but that does not mean something worse cannot happen. You also need to consider population densities; I suspect there are parts of (say) New York City, Detroit or Washington DC (just as there are in London or Manchester and other cities in Europe) that are less safe (possibly downright dangerous) if you were to venture there at the wrong time. Statistically in the UK, 18 to 30 males are most likely to be the victims of violent crime, followed by the 30 to 50 male demographic. Also, when accompanied, you are less likely to be accosted by a miscreant than when alone.
I've never been to the places you have visited but, from those wonderful photographs you have posted, I get the impression they are the epitome of the "American frontier" hospitality a traveller might expect. I know the reality might be very different, but I couldn't make out too many "gang" markings
Of course there are risk! There are always risk. Life is a risk. Crimes can and do happen certainly. But once again, you're just as likely to be the victim of a crime wearing trousers. It is true that there are some less desirable places to be, and yes, there are some places I won't even venture, but these are places I wouldn't go no matter what I was wearing. Such examples are deep in the ghetto's of big cities, KKK rallies, rough honky tonks, you know the usual places that draw out the bad apples of society. But again, it's got nothing to do with the skirt, I'd avoid those places wearing anything.
Disaffected.citizen wrote:I can completely understand your stance here. It is analogous to the article in this thread.
The road to liberty is marked by the blood and sacrifice of those who fought for it! Things got pretty ugly here state side a few times in our history,and our history is still being written. The most recent was the civil rights movement of the 1960's. Lots of blood shed on that ordeal, but segregation ended, and as I've learned, even east of the Atlantic, I see you all have had your bouts with tyranny and in most cases you all fought to overcome. Excellent!
Disaffected.citizen wrote:Don't they just. But, is this a case that too many men are just not prepared to "band together" for a cause; survival of the fittest, etc?
This is a case where I believe the problem is men are their own worst enemy. It's that macho bull sh!t that parade around with that causes this. Too often men are afraid to just say they need help, to band together to force change. Rather men always want to be the lone ranger and be the sole hero. There is power in numbers, the moment men stop thinking with their penises and start using their brains they'll be better for it.
Disaffected.citizen wrote:Very likely not the case, as you say, but still a concern since work is vital for both the provision of daily essentials (shelter, security and food) and for our mental wellbeing.
And an understandable concern if we were having this discussion ten plus years ago. In fact my own employer has a record of terminating crossdressers in years past, but times have changed to some degree and they know it. Still I will admit that there are some jobs even where I work now where skirt wearing, even off duty is frowned upon. It really comes down the price of your soul!
How much of it are you willing to sell for a dollar?
Disaffected.citizen wrote:Although I generally agree with you here, it is more complex. Again, we are talking about complex emotional sentient (sometimes irrational) beings here. Depending upon "how far in" you are, there are likely significant penalties for divorce and there is a bias against men in the court system when it comes to divorce and child custody.
I know I beat a particular drum when we talk about relationships here. If men were to dictate what their female partners were to wear, the women would be consulting all sorts of legal professionals about "domestic abuse", yet they cannot see the correlation! In some cases, they even use our proclivities to don a skirt to demean us.
The result of which has, according to studies, many male millennials foregoing out of marriage all together! Patience D.C., the femnazis will reap what they sow. True women don't need men,
but the dirty little secret is... men don't need women either. It's only a requirement for procreation... so let the human race go extinct... it would be the best thing to happen to this planet! This is why personally I believe if you've ever had any homosexual thoughts, given the current political climate, a man is better off with another man when it comes to life partnerships. Simply put in the event the relationship goes south, the courts will be at a loss as to which one to screw. Thus you can expect an equitable divorce.
Of you could do like Carl did and just have an "engineered marriage". Granted, it went south for him due to other unfounded accusations that he overcame, but even so, and I may be wrong here, but I don't believe she went after his pay checks since in the eyes of the law (the state), they were never actually married. In fact, I find more and more young heterosexual couples are doing just that.... not rushing off to the court houses to get married, rather they are living together year after year. As long as they never have children, then in the event of break up, the courts need not get involved. Maintain two separate addresses and you're in business!
Disaffected.citizen wrote:It's a risk, yes, but we take risks every day. Take a sensible approach to your personal safety and you should be OK. You're less likely to be attacked in daylight in a populated area than after dark alone in a "back alley"!
My "secret"...? Just don't be obnoxious. When there are confrontations, be polite. Take no sh!t, and stand your ground, but be polite. They ALWAYS go away!
Disaffected.citizen wrote:A commendable approach to life, but not at all easy to break free. Frankly, having actually "lost it all" (before anyone challenges this assertion: job - yes, home - yes, friends - yes, family - mostly, yes, partner(s) - yes, savings/money/assets/possessions - yes/yes/yes/yes, liberty - almost, life - wasn't far from losing it; all part of a sustained domestic abuse orchestrated by, as it turned out, a serial abuser), I can assure you it is not a nice place to be.
I know you've been through a lot, but at the end of the day, you're here, talking to us. You survived... people survive. And you learned. Now you must pick up and move on. You also must forgive! My conservative friends (my bible friends) tell me that you don't forgive for the person who wronged you.. you forgive for YOU. And when you forgive, you put it out of your mind, you let go of the anger, bitterness, and fear. Take your lesson and learn from it, but you must move on and find solace in your life. You don't need a woman to be happy, you don't need ANYONE to be happy. Peace comes from within, and
if that what you seek, you don't find within, you'll never find it without. -Doreen Valiente
"What shall it profit a man to gain the world and loose his soul?" -Jesus
Disaffected.citizen wrote:It's quite possible that the "Feminazis" get away with it because they appeal to the misogynist judges/politicians, etc, who still think of the "little woman" as being the homemaker. How often are the terms "man up" used when we encounter inequality?
That's the one irony of the radical Feminist movement, they are against the patriarchy, and yet the patriarchy is the very reason they (women) have such an advantage in the courts!
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true Feminist would demand an equatable divorce and leave emotion at the door regardless of the leanings of the judge. At the end of the day, he will back the woman's play, if she doesn't want what isn't fairly hers, the judge will likely back it.
Women who play the "
poor pitiful me, I'm a woman" card and game the system for their gain are
not Feminist. They are blood sucking vultures who are riding on the coat tales of true well meaning feminist for their own personal gain.... they are monsters best avoided. Maybe Appalachian feminist are different that feminist elsewhere but I've had talks with self proclaimed female feminist in the real world (meat space), and the things they say make me just want to reach out and hug them. They're not bad people. I had a very good discussion with a 19 year old feminist girl working in one of our stores the other day. It was VERY encouraging. She doesn't hate men... and... she's totally cool if her boyfriend wants to wear a skirt! I met him too, he was an awesome fella!
Disaffected.citizen wrote:Just for now
Indeed! I have been full of piss and vinegar lately!
*sighs*... I just get so weary of seeing the constant excuses of why we can't wear skirts. There is no good reason why we can't. We blame wives, we blame conservatives, we blame the church, it's all unfounded!
Maybe it's because I'm younger and people just expect me to be full of shenanigans. I don't know....
