Thanks Dennis, Stevie, David, GerdG,
Dennis,
Thanks for your words of caution on misinterpreting acceptance from my wife. I agree that skirt-wearing may never be unnoticable but I'll continue to move forward but also play a muted, quiet approach when skirting. I won't know what her tolerance line will be until I start pushing the boundaries. My being overly cautious is rooted in my general pessimism on being supported by my wife. In short, she opposes anything I want to do, including helping others and volunterring at church. I agree with the notion that acceptance today doesn't not mean acceptance tomorrow. I've become aquianted with another skirt-wearer whose wife did a complete 180 on the initial acceptance. I wholeheartly agree that wearing a skirt in plublic raises the stakes 10 fold as fears of public humiliation would flood her mind. I have a lot to win over before skirting in public (with her knowledge
In the meantime I'll stay the course until I see more positive feedback. In the meantime, I jumped on creating another skirt-wearing opportunity when our cleaning lady quit (which was good as she was damaging too much (bull in a china shop cleaning style)). As we engaged in our Saturday cleaning routines, I quickly discovered my leggings were too warm and donned my boxer skirt. After some 30 minutes she recognized it with only a passing (neutral) comment. When I finished, I went back to the leggings. I like your approach to taking walks around the lake at dusk. Hopefully that works out. If you're willing, post the results. I'm not sure how long it will take to gain acceptance from my wife but I'll continue to inch my way forward. Thanks for your comments!
Thanks Stevie for your feedback.
That's an interesting paradox that the more feedback you get from others, the more your wife objects. I am a great believer in Murphy's Law and am approaching my skirt-wearing as such. Having grown up in one bad marriage as a child I'm not looking to create another. I have no optomisim whatsoever on understanding or being able to predict my wife and I'm only at the beginning of the beginning of being open about my skirt-wearing.
Hello David,
Re: Running the ball to the goal line.
I was so close to doing just that but the unpredictability of my wife kept me from going for it "on a 4th and short." The temptation was tremendous. You're somewhat correct in saying that in hidding my interest, I've dug myself into a hole. She called me out on the fact that I hid my leggings from her and now the same could be said about my skirts. Being that my wife opposes anything I want for myself I believe that I simply don't have any other choice but to take a chance. In my marriage, it's easier to ask for forgiveness than it is for permission. However, I'm hoping the introduction of the boxer skirt will temper that notion of hiding. A lot will come down to how I introduce my existing (hidden) skirt purchases. The next big step will be when I wear my sweatskirt (terry cloth) for the first time. Knock on wood.
GerdG,
Thanks for your comments. I hope I'm wrong with my over-cautiousness, moving too slow. Nothing would make me happier to crank up the speed. My wife has always been a bit of a tomboy, she played little league baseball as a child, likes machinery. She looks like a boy in most of her school photos. One would think she would be open and flixable to me wanting to do the same. But as every spouse knows that reciprocity is rarely the rule in marriage. The problem is that my wife is self-conscious of her tom-boyishness and feels the need to make sure her husband appears more masculine than her to show that she's not butch. The solution to that is of course that she can make a greater effort to dress like a girly girl to offset that
Thanks for your comments.