should I let my daughter Know I wear skirts

[hairy]

Looks like I need it 4 inches smaller because at its tightest its still about 3 inches too loose. It will be cheapest and easiest to return and re order. I also intend to shorten the replacement by about 3 inches, they are too long for me. I also think I'll keep one just for cooler months as it will be too hot in summer. I think I'm using the kilt as a way of getting my daughter to know I wear Skirts. Its light skirts that I really want to wear for comfort.

[melsav]

I too was very apprehensive about telling my daughter about my skirt wearing then one day myself, my wife and my daughter went out for coffee, don't know how we got onto the subject but I told her that I like to wear skirts, she was not upset about it and asked me why, so I explained to her why and showed her a couple of pics of me and some others on the Internet. She actually liked my skirts and wished she could fit in my size. Then when I made my first kilt I wore it in front of my son, His wife and there two boys. Next thing I know my daughter in law wants me to make for her 2 boys (6 yrs and 10 yrs old, which have done and they love them, my son also wants one but in " The spirit of Yorkshire" tartan (thats where he was born) but cannot get in South Africa. But to buy and ship to RSA is way too expensive. So telling your family about wearing kilts/skirts is more in your mind than anything else.

[skirtyscot]

Well done hairy!

Did it turn out to be much less fraught than you expected, her seeing you in a skirt? It seems like it, from what you say.

[Milfmog]

I've not been around long but can someone tell me how to post pics?

I've put a post expalining how I do it in the Pics and looks area, here.

Hope that helps,


Ian.

[rick401r]

All my children, 34, 36, 38, have seen me kilted for years. One of the girls commented that she liked the way the pleats swayed as I walked. Last Father's Day I spent the day outside on the deck playing my guitars, drinking and smoking a bit of medicinal products. I was wearing one of my denim skirts and a tee shirt. My son joined me with his guitar and said nothing about the skirt. When the girls and the grandkids came by they asked about the skirt. I explained that it was cooler than my kilts and far less expensive. No more was said about it except for the youngest granddaughter who said "Papa, you're silly!".
Of course, they have not seen me in any other style skirts but I'm guessing they would be ok with them. They're all used to seeing the father doing weird things. Long hair in a ponytail, earrings, tattoos, and piercings. They've seen me in high heels (not everyday wear but in charity walks.)
My advice is just be yourself and they can accept you or not. They're choice.

[Couya]

.the youngest granddaughter who said "Papa, you're silly!".

If youngsters in your part of the world are like those in France, she probably never wears a skirt herself ("jeans are so much better" ! ) and would think she looked silly herself if she had to wear one.

Martin

[rick401r]

Actually, this little 5 year old loves dresses and skirts. Bright colors and glittery accessories. I always make sure to compliment her on her outfits.

[hairy]

At last its finally happened my daughter has seen me in my skirt. I've been giving her plenty of warnings that I wear one out in the garden, I've done everything I could in advance so today when she came out without letting me know there I was. She gave one of those coughing sounds when she see me but I took no notice, I think she was slightly embarrassed but she was OK. It all went as I expected, now how do I let her know that I intend to wear one out and about this summer? It was a shortish black skater skirt (not too short) The kilt that I got was too big so that's gone back, I will get another one for end of summer as they are very warm. I'm getting there and feeling so much better now she knows.

[Caultron]

Now that you've broken the ice, tell her that this is something you've discovered you enjoy, and then warn her she may see you in a skirt again, especially next summer.

[hairy]

My skirts are all a bit on the short side so I will have to get longer ones for when the daughter is about as I found it a bit difficult keeping modest when laying in the sun, I now know why women in mini skirts are always pulling on there hem. Caultron I spent the day and evening in my skirt yesterday so I don't think I need to warn her now. I will have to tell her to warn me if she's likely to bring anyone home with her. Thanks to everyone on here helping me get over this hurdle, it took me years.

[jamodu]

Recently, I had minor surgery (twice) to remove a lump in my thigh.

The result was that it was painful to wear trousers for a while, so I had to resort to wearing skirts (and dresses).

Several months later, my adult daughter asked how my leg was (she already knew about my complaints on wearing trousers, post-surgery).

I responded by stating that my wife had needed to buy some skirts and dresses for me to wear because it had been painful to wear trousers.

Her response: 'that's ok'. That was it. No derision. No laughter. No mocking. End of story.

However, I do not recommend having such surgery simply to justify wearing skirts and dresses.

[Sinned]

hairy, I think that you've just proved ( to yourself ) that your expectation and interpretation was actually so much worse than what actually happened. I have found that this is very much the case and we each have to find this out for ourselves. Whilst you will have setbacks you have our support to proceed at your own pace taking into account of the feelings of the loved ones around you. If you feel down or want a rant then do so with us and get it out of your system - we understand. And good luck for the future with your daughter ( and your OH ).

[Reaper_Man]

However, I do not recommend having such surgery simply to justify wearing skirts and dresses.

I don't need to justify my wearing of skirts and dresses, ... i can wear whatever i like and if anyone has an issue with that then it's not my problem

[hairy]

I've had a set back regards this issue tonight, it seems the daughter does not like my wearing skirts and told me to wear shorts, that's something I've always had to do when she's home and I've hated it. However because its my mother in laws funeral tomorrow I've had to let it go for tonight, and daughter goes back to uni on Saturday, but in future when she comes home she will have to put up with my living my life the way I want to. She now knows I wear skirts, its up to her what she wants to think. My wife has always been OK about it but will prob now change her attitude because mother and daughter stick together, but I WILL be skirted when ever I want.

[STEVIE]

Hairy,
No matter what you read here about "wearing what you please", family and family circumstances have to be considered.
First, the "daughter", as I said before, I have one too.
Mine is well aware of her Dad's fashion choice and openly admits to being less than happy with it. That's fine we have an agreement that I won't force it, no hard feelings.
As I see it the "no hard feelings" leaves the way open for future development.
The "Funeral", is another matter. Most importantly , my sincere condolences for your loss. That sounds trite, but I assure you, well meant.
There are times when you can defy convention, this is not likely to be one of them.
Best advice, sometimes is ,"go with the flow".
Steve.