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Wesley
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I just found this forum while doing some research on skirts for men. I see a couple familiar folks from another forum.

While some "crossdressers" progress toward a more and more feminine appearance, perfecting a female look, I am developing an interest in going the opposite direction: being just a guy in a skirt. Part of this is because I have a beard and my wife insists I not shave it off - so trying to pass as a woman in order to wear my preferred style of clothing in public just is not an option. And besides, I'm not a woman, nor do I want to be one. I just like the clothing women can wear.

I regularly wear a skirt when I take my daily walks in the woods (totally in private). I've toyed with the notion of just wearing a skirt, as a guy, in public for many years. Recently I had an opportunity to take a long drive out of state, and I donned a skirt for the drive and even got up the nerve to make my normal stops for gas, coffee, and lunch, as well as shopping at a department store. It felt great and crowds didn't gather around me jeering, nor did everyone around me stare, point and snicker.

Now, before I make this a habit, I'd like to sort out how to pull off a masculine style that says "Man in a skirt" instead of "Guy dressed like a girl" while still enjoying the variety of skirts (and maybe dresses?) beyond just the Scottish Kilt or the Utilikilt (much too short for my taste).
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Hi Wesley and welcome to our little corner of the internet.

If you're looking for information about guys wearing skirts as guys, then you are most definitely in the right place, since that is the specific area of interest that the Café was created to promote. I think you are right when you differentiate between guys who progress from wearing a skirt to full on cross dressing and those who merely want to add the option of a skirt to their wardrobe; this site caters for the latter, there are plenty of other sites for the former.

Feel free to jump in and get involved.

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Hi Wesley and
:welcome:

You will find many diverse ideas and opinions here and I hope
they will help you in creating your 'skirted persona'. :D

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Utilikilts too short?
For me, they are too long, too frilly round and below the knees.
Maybe it is because guys tend to wear them low on the hips, whereas I like a firm belt at waist level and nothing below the knee. Women's skirts tend to be longer than what i'd like to wear.
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Welcome aboard, Wesley!
Wesley wrote:Now, before I make this a habit, I'd like to sort out how to pull off a masculine style that says "Man in a skirt" instead of "Guy dressed like a girl" while still enjoying the variety of skirts (and maybe dresses?) beyond just the Scottish Kilt or the Utilikilt (much too short for my taste).
From this skirt-wearing bloke's viewpoint I suspect you might find it helpful to contemplate what sort of style (casual, business, semi-formal, &c.) you are (1) comfortable in and (2) want to project. First and foremost, you need to be comfortable in whatever style (in the broad sense) you choose, both physically and emotionally. It's then a shorter jump (more of a hop, really) from what sorts of trousered rigs you customarily wear to skirted ones in a similar vein.

Options exist for most sensibilities, and if you're uncomfortable showing too much leg there are longer styles available anywhere from upper-calf-length to floor-sweepers. Fabrics also play into this; if your style is the rugged type, then you'll likely gravitate towards denim styles; if you're a bit more "refined" then more delicate fabrics can work well, but you need to be comfortable and confident in whatever you choose. Legwear can also be leveraged for additional modesty, and warmth during winter, according to your own comfort level.

From personal experience, I find that if I am comfortable with a choice then that will be projected in my behaviour and demeanour when I am out and about. The key here is that the skirt is just a piece of clothing and it should not alter your mannerisms or overt behaviours. Yes, there are some skills that skirt-wearing pretty much demands, but those are driven by the garment, not by a desire to abandon one's manhood; in the same vein as that, there are behaviours that having long hair mandate, and that happens irrespective of gender.

It sounds tough, but as many of us here have shown over time, it can be quite easy, and, for the most part onlookers will either not say anything or they'll be politely curious.
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Welcome Wesley, you sound like OUR kind of guy! Do you have or know someone who has a sewing machine. Cargo shorts and Denim shorts both convert into really nice manly Cargo and Denim skirts. I can probably find some patterns online for you if you like. I've made at least a dozen of them and really like the smooth feeling of them. :D :D :D

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Good morning Wesley. Welcome to the forum.

Skip,

It would be helpful if you could supply some information (details) on converting cargo shorts to skirts. I would certainly appreciate it and I'm sure it would be of assistance to others also.

Thanks.
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Hi Wesley, welcome to the forum,.
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Welcome from the Scottish Borders.
I am mainly a kilts person but I have made the progression via denim kilts onto sometimes wearing an unpleated jeans skirt with kilt hose or soccer socks, which is certainly a masculine look, and the denim also blends in with the crowd.
Please view my photos of kilts and skirts, old trains, vintage buses and classic aircraft on http://www.flickr.com/photos/cessna152towser/
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