shawnk wrote:Also once I was not allowed to bring a small camera bag into a historical site. I asked if they were prohibiting women from carrying bags and the person said "that's different". I take from these kinds of encounters that what men want doesn't matter.
What's odd here is you actually experience the kind of crap I always rant about the possibility of happening... and yet never does, and I live in the south. You on the other hand live in from what all appearances (elsewhere in the nation) is a "blue state" (progressive), and seem to run into quite a bit of trouble.
Perhaps I should have taken Carl at his word about the puritan nature of Massachusetts. I would have never believed it.
I even took my purse into a movie theater once without incident. Granted I was wearing a skirt which may have helped, but still... If they had tried to make me leave it at the door, then I would be forced to tell them, that I must now carry my cash and ID in my hand, as the skirt lacked pockets, hence my reason for the purse. Either that or leave my personal belongings in the care of some 16 year old theater worker. In any event, they would be taking legal responsibility for my belongings, and a complete accounting of everything in the purse, right down to the dust balls would be taken with an assigned value on each item. They would sign off on it and if anything turns up missing they will pay the full replacement cost.
NOPE!
All that being said, the fact that you were in trousers might have made it worse. It's like the skirt makes it "legit" for some reason. People are idiots.
shawnk wrote:I wrote to them and never got a reply. Just really annoys me.
Been there, done that, haven't spent a dime in a Cato yet.... The hippie stores are fine with it though, and that's okay with me, I'd rather give my money to a smaller locally owned business anyway.
shawnk wrote:Once I was questioned about "what I have in the bag"
I would have asked her to show me hers first.
Happy-N-Skirts wrote:I have never been bothered by anyone except to compliment it and / or ask where I bought it, until last weekend. We were at an annual weekend meeting of an explorer group we belong to, and a man made an irritating comment about my "purse", and the next day he made a comment and gesture about squeezing my behind, insinuating my shoulder bag as making me look effeminate (or he admired my butt). His first comment was not amusing so I brushed it off, but the second one the next day was insulting. He is also a member of the organization. I was ready with an answer to the first comment, which was to say I don't like having too much stuff in my pockets. My reply to the second one was that sitting on a wallet was like sitting on a potato. I should probably expect him to say something else the next time we meet, which will be at a meeting. I will think up a snappy answer to his cloddy attitude.
That man sounds like a very sexist ass. There is much about his behavior I find disturbing. Not just the comment about the purse, but the one about grabbing your butt. He clearly has no respect for you, or women. He's probably the type who slaps the butt of the waitress after he places his order in diners.
MEN LIKE THAT ARE WHY WE CAN'T HAVE NICE THINGS!