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crfriend wrote:Dillon nailed it in that last post.
Please, lets stop trying to read things into what one attires himself in that are, quite likely, not there.
The more pernicious note on the entire notion of "cross-dressing" is that it somehow demeans the man because the assumption is made that the woman is inferior. Really, guys, its time to stake that notion through its heart and move on.
Pdxfashionpioneer wrote:If we settled on it the topic wouldn't keep popping up but Carl really got to the heart of the issue. Crossdressers were derided because they were men who were lowering themselves (to the common eye) into the woman's place in society.
As more of us walk about in public with our heads held high and ditto all of the folks in the whole labelled gender variants, and especially as we get accepted in the workplace the more normalized it will become and the less people, of all persuasions, will worry about labels and just start accepting people for who they are.
Sinned wrote:Although I don't think that the term applies to me I'm sure that MOH thinks I do and, although I don't really give a stuff for that term or any other, what MOH thinks is important to me and I've just got to change her thinking on it.
Derek Plattis wrote:If she changed her mind, strangely enough, I'm not sure if I would like to be out with her like that. She never wears skirts or dresses herself except on very "dressed up" occaisions. I can't help thinking it would feel a bit strange for me as well as for her.
Compromise is all well and good -- to a point. After that point, it's not compromise, it's domination.
Derek Plattis wrote:Can any successful relationship exist without willing compromise?
crfriend wrote:Derek Plattis wrote:Can any successful relationship exist without willing compromise?
Compromise is a necessary part of any successful relationship. Capitulation, however, is most emphatically not, and is an indicator of a failed relationship.
"Compromise", if it only works one way is not compromise at all; it's supposed to be transitive.
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