Out and About -- In the World at Large

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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby Rokje » Sat Dec 02, 2017 8:08 am

Today my wife and I went shopping in Rotterdam. And I will be looking for skirts for me to wear. I have 4 kilts, 3 women skirts that I like to wear and 3 Unisex skirts from Skirtcraft.com.
My wife likes me wearing skirts and tights so we go out there shopping. 8)


My english is somewhat rusty :wink:
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby Caultron » Sat Dec 02, 2017 2:43 pm

Rokje wrote:...My wife likes me wearing skirts and tights so we go out there shopping.

You're very fortunate to have such a supportive wife. What's your secret?
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby Rokje » Sun Dec 03, 2017 9:03 am

We love each other deeply, and she has a very open mind that I like a lot. I just buy my skirts online, and when they arrive I put them on and she says OK or Not OK. Like the last online order I ordered 4 skirts, I put them on and 2 of them were good enough. 2 out of 4 is a nice score. Buying online is quite hard, because you can't feel the fabric or the fit on your body.
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby Caultron » Sun Dec 03, 2017 3:19 pm

Rokje wrote:We love each other deeply, and she has a very open mind that I like a lot. I just buy my skirts online, and when they arrive I put them on and she says OK or Not OK. Like the last online order I ordered 4 skirts, I put them on and 2 of them were good enough. 2 out of 4 is a nice score. Buying online is quite hard, because you can't feel the fabric or the fit on your body.

When buying online, free returns, including shipping, is definitely a policy to seek out.
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby oldsalt1 » Tue Dec 05, 2017 4:14 pm

Hey guys sorry for rehashing this subject so much but It is big step to me and I want to share it with the cafe.

I went to another mass this morning after mass I had a meeting with our parish outreach director . Fr Frank asked me to work on a project and I was just giving my results. After I met with the director, we went up and had a discussion with FR Frank.

The boring part nothing to report, although I did notice that while we were in the meeting the director kept on looking down at my skirt. Nothing was ever said.

What made this so important was , it was not a random ballgame , shopping trip or train ride. I am establishing myself in a certain persona within the community I spend every day. I am going to see these same people tomorrow at the supermarket or bank
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby Caultron » Tue Dec 05, 2017 5:03 pm

oldsalt1 wrote:...I am establishing myself in a certain persona within the community I spend every day. I am going to see these same people tomorrow at the supermarket or bank

Yes, after a while you get the feeling that everyone in your neighborhood has already seen you once or twice, and been OK with it, and even started expecting it.
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby Daryl » Wed Dec 06, 2017 5:27 am

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oldsalt1 wrote:...I am establishing myself in a certain persona within the community I spend every day. I am going to see these same people tomorrow at the supermarket or bank

Yes, after a while you get the feeling that everyone in your neighborhood has already seen you once or twice, and been OK with it, and even started expecting it.


Definitely. Whenever I appear in trousers at my workplace, or with any of my closer friends, they always notice the missing skirt/kilt. Sometimes there is a long delay first then something like "hey, you're wearing pants". People do get accustomed to a norm if it is repeated enough. When I was alternating skirts and pants it never got noted but once people had only seen me in skirts for a couple of years, pants became noteworthy.

The Toronto subway system moves 2.7 million people every day, and I rode it every day for years and years. Over time I stopped getting comments (usually positive) and now I don't even get very many double-takes and other very direct reactions. Imagine that; I conditioned probably half a million people to go "meh" whenever they saw a man in a skirt! 8)
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby Daryl » Wed Dec 06, 2017 5:50 am

oldsalt1 wrote: I did notice that while we were in the meeting the director kept on looking down at my skirt. Nothing was ever said.

What made this so important was , it was not a random ballgame , shopping trip or train ride. I am establishing myself in a certain persona within the community I spend every day. I am going to see these same people tomorrow at the supermarket or bank


Imagine sitting alone in a room that is not your own, say maybe an office somewhere, and a door to somewhere is left slightly open but it is dark beyond the door so you can't tell if it's a closet, another room, a stairwell, or what. It will attract your attention and if you are left alone in the room long enough you'll probably feel the need to investigate. I think skirts are a bit like that: an open door with an open question as to what lies beyond. I think that accounts for most glancing at our skirts even with people who are familiar with them. One never knows what might fly out at any moment! (hopefully not bats)

I think probably the best advice I could give is to not make a thing of your skirting in the community you want to integrate it into. Just be regular and avoid being perceived as using your skirts as a way of accomplishing anything other than wearing what you want to wear. I may be reading you wrong but I think "establishing a certain persona" is already a little too self-conscious about it. Our fellow humans have amazing radar for inauthenticity and contrivance, and I don't think you are wanting to become a blip on their screens but rather become just part of the dark background.
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby Caultron » Wed Dec 06, 2017 3:41 pm

Daryl wrote:...The Toronto subway system moves 2.7 million people every day, and I rode it every day for years and years. Over time I stopped getting comments (usually positive) and now I don't even get very many double-takes and other very direct reactions. Imagine that; I conditioned probably half a million people to go "meh" whenever they saw a man in a skirt!

That may be, but I bet another factor was your own confidence and acceptance. In order to get acceptance from others, you first need to develop self-acceptance.
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby denimini » Thu Dec 07, 2017 12:44 pm

oldsalt1 wrote:
What made this so important was , it was not a random ballgame , shopping trip or train ride. I am establishing myself in a certain persona within the community I spend every day. I am going to see these same people tomorrow at the supermarket or bank

A good strategy, soon the novelty will wear off for people seeing you in a skirt and it will be considered unremarkable. This happens quite quickly in a small community and is seems to happen exponentially, as more and more people are around to give the cue of normality to the uninitiated.
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby SkirtsDad » Thu Dec 07, 2017 5:21 pm

Oh no! :shock: Tell me it's not true!!! If I stop getting compliments whenever I go out I'll either have to find something more controversial to wear or move to somewhere they don't know me yet :(

Hehe.

Anyway, well done oldsalt for finally establishing yourself in the community whilst dressing against the norm. It must surely give others on a similar path hope of achieving the same. How long would you say it has probably taken from your first tentative steps outside being alternatively attired?
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby oldsalt1 » Fri Dec 08, 2017 2:37 am

I would say that it is a little over a year and a half. I may have been playing with wearing skirts a few months before but I would say my first trips out were around May of 2016 I may have made a couple of stops for gas. But that was about when I first snuck into burger king at 6 am and actually spoke to someone in a skirt
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby oldsalt1 » Fri Dec 08, 2017 2:57 am

SD you have posted a lot of outfits. My favorite was the pub outfit with the gray boots from May 28 2016
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby Darryl » Fri Dec 08, 2017 3:35 am

Left work tonight in black shoes, black leggings with lace edge trim, a black A-line, black oxford dress shirt opened down to the 2nd button with a white turtleneck under it, and a Navy blazer.

Stopped at a Moby Dick for a fish-box and the lady taking my order probably hurt her face with that grin she had on the whole time I was there. It grew wider and brighter whenever her optical array focused in on my location. :roll:

Nice to give someone something to smile about....
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Re: Out and About -- In the World at Large

Postby JeffB1959 » Fri Dec 08, 2017 10:27 am

Caultron wrote:
Daryl wrote:...The Toronto subway system moves 2.7 million people every day, and I rode it every day for years and years. Over time I stopped getting comments (usually positive) and now I don't even get very many double-takes and other very direct reactions. Imagine that; I conditioned probably half a million people to go "meh" whenever they saw a man in a skirt!

That may be, but I bet another factor was your own confidence and acceptance. In order to get acceptance from others, you first need to develop self-acceptance.


Agreed. If you give off a vibe or nervousness, uncertainty or furtiveness, people will pick up on that almost immediately, causing them to take notice of you, and perhaps not in a positive way. As long as you display confidence, perhaps even a shade of cockiness, like you're perfectly at home in what you're wearing like everyone else, chances are great you'll be accepted by the public for your presentation.
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