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Offhand, I'd not reference sources like TikTok for advice on social etiquette because (1) it's run from afar in China, (2) is absolutely "current" (and has all the problems with laxity that "currency" has in matters like this), and (3) may not have any actual backing in culture, ...

One answer, of course, is "Yes, of course it's possible, in the same way it'd be possible if one was Islamic, Jewish, a Jedi, or a Buddhist, or of some other faith." However, the answer that actually makes sense for the modern realm is to toss the question aside with the force and power it...

No I am not aware of any boys in skirts, but it may have happened, I am only there from time to time in my role. I believe the girls now wear shorts when they want, which was the main driver of the change in policy. Of course not, because "Men, and boys, do not wear skirts.". Call it &quo...

It's a sneaky use of words "men dont" that keeps men in their place. There's a reason for one of my favourite cracks being, "I may have been born at night -- it just wasn't last night." I've circled our "day star" more than a few times, and some of the memories gained ...

I think it all comes down standing up for yourself. Standing up for yourself is easier said than done for some. It's easy when you are big and bad, not so easy when you are small or you have a lot to lose. That's a decent start on the general issue. I have no problem with standing up to perceived p...

I appreciate that peoples circumstances are different. There's no law preventing men from dressing however they want. I know I'm stating the obvious. However, pointing up that the unwritten laws can be a Hell of a lot more pernicious ones than the ones represented in screed are (1) uninterpretable ...

What I do know is that a number of posts have disappeared from my "Mouse at work and play..." thread where I was discussing with crfriend the relevance of blue and yellow Snow White colours in the outfits we had both worn. I posted a picture of these colours being used in London for other...

From "The Mole": When I was asked to become a Moderator, I swore to uphold the “Rules” of Skirt Café. I was asked because I supported the Kilt and its variations. This was to keep all views open, to everyone. I’ve upheld my agreement by fully supporting the “Rules” and have issued several...

It's often said that time heals all wounds. I once may have believed that, but as I grow older and have witnessed the lasting scars of so many "healings", I'm more given to believe that many wounds will never be healed, and that's too bad. I've heard that cliche, too, altogether too many ...

We are a small community and the Cafe provides a a place for the community to meet. That's the focus -- and that's where the focus should be. However, I am a little bemused as to why we are told about a problem that we can't know about. 🤔 Part of being socially responsible is to call out when thing...

Many thanks, Mouse. The thoughts are greatly appreciated. We do our level best here to be informative, supportive, and understanding. Fortunately, these flare-ups are fairly rare here and usually blow over quickly. I'm proud of my tenure here and whilst it's not likely some sort of absolute record i...

Yeah, and all the indications point to it getting a whole lot worse before (if) it gets better

Coder arrives at a couple of valid conclusions here insofar as beating up on particular body-parts and shapes and the general size of the community and its ability to "drive trends". Face it, we're a tiny community and are very "thin on the ground" when one considers the populati...

And so it came to pass, that after all these years, I've had a moderator "go rogue" and commit one of the more cowardly acts known to modern man -- the anonymous rewriting of history to "cancel" the opinion of another. The net effect of this act of cowardice was to essentially ex...

It is a pertinent point, I have noted that the actual sizes linked to female dress sizes have grown over the year,s a modern size 12 skirt will have bigger waist and hips compared to a vintage size 12 skirt. This is well known and commonly derided as "vanity sizing" where it adjusts the n...